My family and I have been in a state of emergency for two weeks. Together with millions of other people, we try to do our part at home to prevent more people from catching Covid-19. It gets more difficult every day. If you now expect instructions on what you can do in this time to get through it as best as possible, I have to disappoint you. This is just my personal path.
My worry is going insane at some point. Being locked up all the time, in a completely crazy everyday life. With the uncertainty of not knowing when the situation will change for the better. Thanks to Homeoffice, I can continue to work, for which I am very grateful. But it costs me a lot of energy. At the same time, the children want attention, help with school tasks, regular meals and moral support. They can only see their friends on the screen, there is no gymnastics club, no music lessons. Simply nothing beyond our home.I think the most difficult thing for me is that the days are blurred and I have no way of changing the overall situation.
Two things keep me going at the end of the day. My still quite new work, which offers social added value and my diary. I recently discovered diary writing for myself again. And recently I also read an article on Bella’s blog how to start writing a diary. She chooses the classic book version, I chose a digital way for myself. Maybe I can also inspire others with it?
My path towards mindfulness
For a very long time I didn’t want to have anything to do with mindfulness. For me it was a hype that I didn’t want to take part in. And somehow everything seemed too esoteric to me and everything inside me refused to deal with the subject in more detail. It took a long time and it took several people to understand that sustainability doesn’t work without mindfulness. Sustainability starts with me. If I don’t pay attention to myself, I cannot act sustainably in other areas.
More than four years ago I met Anja, who writes on “Life is contagious” on this very topic. She once mentioned to me: “We both write about similar topics.” I had to laugh inside because I couldn’t discover anything in common. We shared so much beyond blogging that my aversion was no obstacle to building a friendship.
Daycatcher – the social mindfulness network
Last fall, at the urging of my friend Séverine, I met an impressive woman at her Swissblogfamily conference. And by being impressive I mean, even before we exchanged a word, I felt a special energy that immediately captivated me. We changed a few sentences, but in this case, it was more the non-verbal communication that brought us together.
Päivi developed Daycatcher to give people a tool to take care of themselves. The app is an online diary with a social networking function. Every day you take a picture of a special situation (everything can be special) and describe this situation in short or long words. If you want, you can follow other users and comment on their entries. So simple so good.
I was not sure in November whether the concept could bind me in the long run. I like to write very much. But privately? My last diary entry was 13. When I was unhappily in love and everyone around me was stupid. Then I recorded my four-week stay in Riga and that was it. Sometimes you just have to try things out to see how well they can do you good.
I have been writing down my experiences of the day for 141 days. Sometimes it’s short notes, but mostly I let my mind run free. And what should I say? I haven’t missed a single day. Writing has become a cherished routine. What is so good for me: in self-reflection I can be self-critical, brooding and honest with myself. And if I want , I can get additional feedback from the community. At the end of the day, after my diary entry, I am almost always reconciled with the day. Because it’s never black or white. Every day has a moment that is worth remembering.
Anyone who knows me has already noticed that I’m one who likes to drill, knock and see if there isn’t a catch after all. I can’t find any. On the contrary, I find statements like those that Daycatcher writes in his community guidelines to be extremely courageous and optimistic: «It is important that the members take responsibility together to make the Daycatcher platform appropriate, constructive and joyful, so that everyone can benefit from it »
Considering all the hatred that is dumped on the net, it’s a little bit like an island. And it is wise to transfer some of the responsibility for the success to the members of the community. I like that. And finally, the note: “And if you have nothing nice to say to others, don’t say anything” – Daycatcher Community Guidelines.
For me it also extends to real life. Even if some are wondering, why I sometimes prefer to remain silent. Silence hopefully hurts less than thoughtless, spontaneously expressed negative thoughts.
At the end of the year I would like to have my Daycatcher diary printed as a small book, leaf through the pages of my life and find that my life is actually quite good.